Keeping It Real

I’ve been chatting with one of my best friends, and fellow yarnie and blogger, Sarah, about how much reality you should reveal on your blog. The temptation when blogging is to present a very sanitized version of your life, light and frothy and always sunshiny. Well, I think we can all agree that I don’t do that, LOL. I share pretty much everything with you, and the few things that I don’t share, I only hold back on because I know of a few real life acquaintances who read the blog, and I don’t choose to have them all know everything about me. A girl’s gotta have some secrets!

But what I do write comes straight from the heart, and I don’t see the point in editing that. I figure that if you are reading the blog, you want to know the real me, right??

(But it’s a different matter when I read other people’s blogs. There, I definitely select the blogs that are only ever happy, shiny places. I think that for me, blogs are escapist reading, and as with my book choices, I like happy endings, not kitchen sink dramas. Dear me, I’m so full of contradictions.)  

I suppose I do treat this blog very much as a personal diary. Ironically, I’ve never been able to maintain a real diary, although I’ve tried many times. I love to write, but I think I can only write when I know that I have an audience. I don’t write for my own satisfaction, I write to entertain. The blog enables me to keep my writing skills sharpish, and is a definite creative outlet. The second half of the week it becomes a business blog, but the first half of the week is my space. I have a split personality blog!

I’m very conscious that the blog is mainly written, apart from the yarn photos, images are sadly lacking. Again, this is a contradiction of what I like in my own blog list – I never follow blogs that are more text than images. But it is a reflection of the kind of creativity I have: my brain works in words, not pictures. I apologise for that, it makes things a little dull around here.

Writing is where I feel most at home. If I need to talk to someone, I would far rather do it by email than by phone or in person. I can put my thoughts into words when I type, even when sometimes I don’t know what those thoughts are when I first start off. Even when I’m rambling a bit, like today (my excuse is that we’ve both had a nasty virus, and my head still feels very cotton-woolly), just typing seems to crystallise my fuzzy thoughts!

Sometimes I find it harder blogging than others – usually it’s because my creative juices are flowing on some other project, and I haven’t got anything left to say here. But I can’t imagine life without blogging. Everybody needs a ‘voice’ whether that is expressed through writing, through painting, through photography, whatever. We all have something to say, and we need to know that someone is listening.

Thank you for being that someone.

3 thoughts on “Keeping It Real

  1. It certainly doesn’t matter to me that there are no pictures in your ‘own’ blog – I read it anyway as there are always some really wonderful descriptions of your thoughts on life! Oh – by the way – in a way you do have pictures or at least links to pictures in your “Hot or Not”-column …

    For eight years I lived in England (in suburbs around London) and for almost a year after that I lived in Australia (Melbourne). During these years I wrote very loooong letters to my family and friends. I have kept both their replies and copies of my own letters (this was before email) because I realised that these constituted my “diary” for those nine years.

    So I do understand the diary/blog writing for an audience. If anybody should need colour in your blog, they can always have a look at all the fabulous yarn photos.

  2. I agree with almost everything you’ve written here – I find writing such an easy way to communicate. I know exactly what you mean about that crystallisation – I can’t count the number of times I’ve written an email, a blog post or even just a little text, read it back to myself, and thought “huh, I didn’t know I thought that… but I do, I really do”. I guess I’m different because I write for myself mostly – and keep what I write for myself, to myself, mostly as well. But I think the thought process behind it is quite similar, and that desire to communicate in words, too.
    George Orwell wrote a very good essay entitled “Why I Write”, and Joan Didion emulated the idea with hers of the same title. I far, far prefer the latter. It’s online. Here’s a quote:

    “All I knew then was what I couldn’t do. All I knew then was what I wasn’t, and it took me some years to discover what I was.
    Which was a writer.
    By which I mean not a “good” writer or a “bad” writer but simply a writer, a person whose most absorbed and passionate hours are spent arranging words on pieces of paper. Had my credentials been in order I would never have become a writer. Had I been blessed with even limited access to my own mind there would have been no reason to write. I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want to what I fear.”

    I couldn’t think her more wonderful or inspirational.

  3. Don’t fret the photos. I think the colour in your blog comes as much from what you say and share as the photos you post at the end of the week.

    My blog tends towards the ‘sunshine-y’ side ot fhings. I don’t share much of anything that isn’t knitting — which can make keeping it vaguely interesting a challenge!